The Five Stages of Pornography Addiction

pornography addiction About 83 percent of pornography addicts are men, and one in three is a woman. The largest users of online pornography are 12 to 17-year-olds. Teenagers. Fifty-six percent of divorces involve one spouse with a pornography addiction (mind-armor.com). Yes, addiction—not just viewing for recreational pleasure, but viewing it because it becomes a compulsion and the addict can’t think of or do anything else.

Do you think you, your spouse, or someone else you know might be addicted to pornography? Following are the five stages of a pornography addiction:

Early exposure
Addiction
Desensitization
Escalation
Acting out sexually

A pornography addiction is about selfishness—getting, taking—not giving, as it would be in a normal intimate relationship with a spouse. The addiction makes it impossible for any emotional or marital familiarity, closeness or love.

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Porn and Pancakes – Church tackles growing porn problem over breakfast

Last Saturday’s Pornography & Pancakes breakfast at First Presbyterian Church in Lancaster had just begun when David Dean of Fireproof Ministries asked how many in the audience had offered friends a less-than-complete explanation as to where they were going.

“How many of you left off the word ‘pornography’?” he asked. A few hands went up.

“All of the teenagers,” he laughed.  “Of course.”

Dean is a funny guy. He worked with the Second City comedy troupe in Chicago and his humorous approach to a taboo subject is his way to get people to talk about it.

He kidded the Rev. Geoff Kohler that the 35 men and teenage boys who attended the male-only session did not use the church’s front door.

“I noticed there is a side door, pastor, and people walking down a back alley come in a side door,” Dean quipped.

But it wasn’t long until he began addressing the real issue.

Pornography is a growing problem. It ruins marriages and lives. It can be addictive. Roughly 40 million Americans access pornography online regularly.

Accountability partners

Dean and the Rev. Craig Gross, founder of XXXChurch.org, which is based in California, are accountability partners. That is, they use software to monitor each others’ computer use.

Dean, who lives in Indiana,  said he was on his way home from an event one night when Gross called him.

“What are you looking at?” Gross asked him.

Dean said he was in his car and looking at the road. Dean then called home and woke his wife. She told him  their teenage son, Alex, had a friend staying over that night. His name was Tannen.

The next morning, Dean confronted the pair. Tannen admitted to having been on the computer but denied looking at pornography.

At that point, Dean told him that the software — X3Watch.com — not only lists dates and times but Internet addresses as well.

The youth then admitted to having been on the site. What came next was shocking. A month later, Tannen admitted to his parents that he had been viewing pornography online since ninth grade.

The porn industry is well aware of the demographics. By the age of 18, fully 90 percent of boys and 62 percent of girls have been exposed to pornographic images.

“One of every six females,” said Dean, “is addicted to pornography.”

That came as a surprise to Colin, a ninth grader who attended Saturday’s session.

“I thought pornography was like a guy thing,” he said. “I never thought of it as a girls’ type of issue.  It’s a lot more widespread than you know.”

In Tannen’s case, the computer serach began innocently. He had been searching for a basketball score. One click led to another.

And therein was Dean’s warning:

If you use a computer, you are just a few clicks away from stumbling onto a pornography site.

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